I returned from a month's holiday in my country! I really enjoyed this
stay.
Since this was a good time that I had not seen my girlfriends , I was more or less tense at these reunions. (In spite of contacts over the Internet)
In reality, I got worried for nothing.
Most of my friends have not changed, neither in appearance or character.
We talked about everything and nothing like 2 years ago or more. What was changed is that their surroundings.
They have a new job, new boyfriend, a new apartment etc..
It was very interesting to discover another world they have created while I was building mine in France.
same time, I was a little sad to confirm that we no longer live in the same social milieu.
As I am far from my country and my friends, I feel it more. Although we
as before, I felt an invisible barrier.
As they say " Out of sight, out of mind".
In Japan, it is often said, "We are friends, even if they are far from one and another."
But this is only an appearance.
What a disaster to live abroad.
I opted for my boyfriend and my profession at the expense of my dear friends and my family.
I can not fill those two desires at once!
remains to strive to connect up with them.
I must return to the title.
Shock # 1:
Some girlfriends are ready to resign because of his marriage or pregnancy.
Fortunately, this is not the case with all my friends!
If there are Japanese who impose them, there are Japanese who accept it.
One of my friends told me she would not let her child to nurse.
At this level, I understand.
But then I do not understand what another friend said: "I make housework and I do a little job easier. What a paradise! "
In Japan, women's pleasure (at home) have often focused on their children.
My friends who say these things not currently nor interesting work or career plans.
For them, what they are trying to practice as a profession, it is only a backup job. Unlike them, my friends who came out of "good university" are generally future frames.
For now, they intend to continue working.
But they say why they will work although it is not well seen by her future husband and it is not easy to handle work and family (their children and household chores).
The question they faced was that "This work, is it worth continuing? "
I also wonder if the French are working for themselves or for money? If there is no financial difficulty, they are also ready to quit work?
Shock number 2:
Some girlfriends can not be affectionate to their boyfriends.
As Japan is westernized, even when we see couples kissing in front of public so that there are still couples who can not walk outside to shake hands since ' they feel embarrassed.
was the case with my girlfriends!
It seems they do not show his desire to be tight in the arms of his friend, and they are reluctant to touch him and be cuddly.
What's that!
That shocked me!
I thought when we talked about shyness torque, it was outside.
However, reviewing the Japanese custom, I remember that the Japanese tend to ban physical contact.
We do not touch at all, when people greet between relatives.
Even among family, we do not kiss or you do not shake hands.
According to these habits, the behavior of my girlfriends are still compressive.
Good for my boyfriend that I'm pretty westernized!
To believe him, I am still restricted to the countries where physical contacts are love or intimacy.
Shock # 3:
The Japanese are so careful of his outfit that I felt neglected!! While in France, I am not.
Shock # 4:
The Japanese do too much attention to their rumors.
I knew long ago.
is what I do not like Japan.
They do not behave sincerely, because they often calculate the advantages and disadvantages.
This is not necessarily crafty calculation clever but perhaps too nice.
(NB I wanted to find a word that means someone who is so nice that he does not think about him and that puts aside his interest. I found a translation of Japanese "debonair." But after my boyfriend is not what I mean. If you find a suspicious word, tell me, please!)
A freebie! :
The services are always excellent!
I was really delighted!
It was very nice!
One day I went to renew my driver's license office led to the conduit. The organization was incomparable to that of the French administration.
Once you're there, signs and staff you lead effectively.
And so carefree you can complete the formalities of your needs.
Another example, when a postman comes to you in your absence for a letter or a large parcel, it leaves a paper like the French Post.
But here there is a small difference.
To find your letter or package, you can call a number to set the date and time of redelivery (eg between 9am-10am ...... between 19h-21h). In addition, if you do it before 18h, you can receive the same day.
among others ...
It is not worth the trouble to mention friendly and courteous behavior of sellers and servers. (I can say that it is sometimes "too")
